Rachel's Story

Received this account of Ruben's behaviour by email this morning.

Rachel* Writes:

I was approached in a very similar way by this guy on the Skout app on 17 Dec 2014. He was very friendly and seemed to be a genuinely nice guy. We chatted on WhatsApp for a couple of days. I was sent the same 4 pictures of himself.

Over the few days that we were chatting, he sent me some very explicit photos of himself (I am assuming) wanting me to return the favour, blocking me for a day when I didn't want to, then messaging me again. After being pestered for about a week about it, I relented, and sent two risque but tasteful pictures back.

He then began to ask very strange questions about if I wanted to be part of a "couple" and go to parties (I can only assume they were swingers parties, from the way he was chatting). I refused, and said it was not my type of thing. Again he blocked me and then unblocked me the next day. He became very obsessive after that, sending me 10 - 15 messages at a time, and if I didn't reply straight away he got quite aggressive.

I was out of the area at family over the Christmas period. He had wanted to meet up, but I had to decline. He then got very aggressive towards me. i tried to reason with him and said that it was the festive season and had had the plans for weeks before I had even met him on the chat app. He then proceeded to threaten to post the two pictures I had sent him all over the internet because I was just messing with him. After he had threatened me a couple of times, he then blocked me, and I did the same.

Thank you for sharing your experience. Ladies please email me your experiences. Your name will be changed to protect you.